Last year, I got pregnant and the plan was when I got to second trimester of my pregnancy, that I will go to the US and stay until I have my baby. When I travelled, my husband asked if his friend can come stay with him in the house. The friend was having accommodation trouble and we have rooms downstairs that no one is occupying, my husband was saying he was lonely all by himself.
So this his friend moved in and next thing, I started seeing this guy post pictures of my house like its his own on social media. He would bring girls into our house, my kitchen and I did not like that. I told my husband to warn his friend. He said he did and the photos stopped.
Next thing, this guy’s girlfriend started cooking in the house and would give my husband to eat. Note, we have a male chef who we hired just before I travelled. It was the chef that told me that this girl was cooking and giving my husband. He even said she was was being too friendly with my husband.
When I confronted my husband, he told me not to encourage gossip from domestic staff. That I should trust him. I noticed after that anytime I ask the chef questions, its like he is afraid to tell me anything. I think my husband threatened him. I was quite worried. I spoke to my mom about it and she suggested installing secret CCTV cameras in the house. Initially, I was against it cos I knew my husband would think I was suspecting him but my mum said it would be done in such a way that he would never notice.
So one day when my husband was not around, in the guise of checking the water heater electricals, my mom sent experts to install CCTV smart gadgets with pin eyes in the house. You would never suspect anything was happening. So, from my iphone in US, I can see everything happening in my house in Lagos.
And to confirm my fears, I watched on CCTV how my husband was cheating on me with his friend’s girlfriend. I do not know if the friend is aware but they were f*cking in my bedroom and my baby’s nursery room which I was planning to decorate when I come back to Nigeria. I cried and cried ….watching the man that I loved for the past 8 years disgrace and betray me right in the house that my own parents gave us.
I informed my parents of what happened. They were so mad, they got law enforcement and evicted everyone from the house including my husband. Since then, my husband has been begging me to forgive him, saying he is sorry…asking everyone in this world to beg me including his old mother whom I love so much.
My husband said its because we were not together and he was s3x starved for months. Well, what about me? Have I been having s3x all these while? what happened to being faithful for better or worse. And those telling me its normal for a man to be tempted especially when the wife is away, well, he should have taken a flight to US and come f*ck his wife instead…at least we can afford flight tickets abi?
The truth is, I love my husband so much…my parents even took him as their son. We have been through so much together for 8 years. Even when his father dies 4 years ago. I wonder why he could stoop so low to do this. I do not know if I can ever trust him again. My baby is due in February. I am so scared at the thought of raising this child alone.
Please, how do I ever forgive this man, how do I know for sure that he has truly I file for a divorce? am so sad when I think of how things have turned. I need help.